Recently I was in a discussion with some non-Japanese people from varying countries that have lived in Japan. They all talked about how the declining birth rate in their country is causing problems for the future. We got into the discussion about how many of the younger generations in Japan are not marrying. We also talked about how many Japanese are agoraphobic, staying in their home and are afraid to leave the house. They also don’t like to meet new people.
This got me thinking that many of us have had a lot of setbacks in terms of our ability to socialize because of the coronavirus lockdowns, and may be feeling quite alone. Loneliness is well documented to cause a lot of anxiety and depression, but I was wondering if there is an upside to it. Personally, I like to get up early in the morning, to have some me time. I also enjoy exercising on my own as well; it helps me to clear my head. On the other hand, exercising with others helps with motivation.
Well, there is a difference between loneliness and solitude. Loneliness is a sense of isolation that can still be experienced, even in the presence of other people. But solitude is choosing to be alone for any number of reasons, including time to sort out problems, to reflect or even just to experience one’s own company. Loneliness can be something that many of us crave for, especially if we have to deal with a lot of demanding people in our day-to-day life.
Studies have been conducted on the concept of solitude with some positive results. Many themes became apparent in one particular body of research conducted on young, middle-aged and elderly subjects. Solitude helps people to become more creative, reduces pressure placed upon people from others, as well as being a good tool for self-discovery. I think many of us really don’t know ourselves unless we spend a lot of time being alone.
The younger group that was surveyed particularly liked the ability for self-growth that they achieved through solitude. While the older generations enjoyed the aspects of becoming more independent and free from other people’s expectations.
No matter what age group, while it is important to have a social connection with others, it is equally important to spend some time alone enjoying your own company.
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