It is the topic of many songs, is on the minds of many people, and is what many people are dealing with on a day-to-day basis. Yes, it’s relationships. Since I got into the therapy/counselling business, I thought I would be dealing with many people with anxiety, depression and self-esteem issues. That is true, and it is relatively easy to help people suffering from these systems and make a noticeable improvement in their lives. But, actually, I seem to be dealing with more and more people with relationship issues.
Relationship issues are challenging, and the people suffering these issues often seem to have the previously mentioned anxiety, depression and self-esteem symptoms included in their issues. The problems that I find dealing with people with broken hearts, frustrations that relationships aren’t going as well as they planned, or partners not understanding them, just to name a few, is that they want advice. Unfortunately, I can’t really give it to them. I can only really talk them through it.
There are so many variables concerning relationships, and it is really only the people in these relationships that can work their own way through them. But I often do find people that think they are doing everything wrong. They tend to lose their self-esteem in relationships. They may really like someone and feel that they are the sole reason why the relationship is failing. I think this can cause problems outside the relationship. It is definitely important to maintain your own self-esteem.
Other times, people may complain about their partner. I believe these people need to look at themselves as well. As the saying goes ‘It takes two to tango’. The person complaining about the other may have reasons to, but they may also be at fault.
There are so many people out in the world, and it can take a long time for some people to find a good partner. For others it may be easy, but difficult to hold on to him or her. Personally, I think it is important to take some quality time together with your partner in order to make sure that that person is right for you. Even if you are different, or very similar, spending time together can make a difference. If you share a hobby, that could help, but it is not necessary.
It is not easy, but I really think that if you are in a healthy relationship, it can help you in all aspects of your life. I will continue to help my clients to make the most of their relationships, even though it is a challenge.
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