Life has its ups and downs, and many people think that they deserve more in their life. This kind of thinking can be temporary, but sometimes it may last long. We often use the phrase ‘Pity Party’ to describe times when we just pity ourselves. Self-pity only comes naturally to most people, but obviously is not a good thing.
In my opinion, I think that getting into the habit of pitying yourself becomes an addiction. Just like any kind of addiction, it can be hard to break free from it, but obviously you will only get addicted to something if you are getting some kind of enjoyment out of it. Maybe one could get addicted to self-pity because they want others to help them snap out of it, rather than gaining the strength to do it themselves. They could also engage in self-pity because they are not as successful as they thought they planned and feel that a Pity Party is their consolation prize.
So what can we do about this? If you were addicted to alcohol, you could stop drinking. If it is a bad food choice, you could try to replace it with a good one. You could also gradually reduce the amount of bad food you eat. There are many ways to get out of addictions, but it is not so easy with a Self-pity-addiction.
I, like many people, have a Sefl-pity-addiction. My strategies for dealing with it is to try to acknowledge when I have these thoughts and try to stop them. I would think that maybe there is no need to pity myself because life is not perfect, and I should focus on gratitude and all the good things in my life. I plan to always focus on whenever I am pitying myself for at least 21 days, as refraining from a bad habit for 21 days seems to help many people break all kinds of addictions.
I know I will not completely stop my Pity Parties, but I hope to reduce them and not turn them into all-nighters.
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